Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Stop Stressing Me Out!!!

People, I am losing it. I've been getting all kinds of negatives lately about the wedding. My female co-workers all freaked out when I told them my sister is making my dress. They were horrified that I wouldn't like it, that we would fight(well duh, we are sisters) and just all manner of bad things. Then there's the cost of all of it. Which, honestly? Is keeping me from planning. No flowers, no cake, no DJ, no photographer, because it all costs money. F is freaking about the money,which makes me freak, and seriously, not getting much of a fairy tale feeling here. On top of that I can't help but worry about what drama his father may cause, or his brother and his wife. It's getting to me in so many ways. I need to stop, but I can't seem to.
MIL? Apparently pretty hacked off that we didn't stay with them this last time. Wanted to know why her house wasn't good enough. Oh holy lord. It's not the home, although, it's not the cleanest, but it's her husband. This little bit of info was told to me during a fight. About FIL and his behavior and how it's allowed to go on.
"He's old! He's not going to change!"
"He shouldn't be allowed to behave that way! I don't get why you guys let him get away with it!!! I've never met someone so rude!"


Apparently, from what F tells me, this is how it's always been. And he was dumbfounded when I told him that FIL was laughing and joking with his buddy on the phone.

"He was joking?"

"Yes."

"And laughing?"

"Yes."


Oh, I'm just not equipped to deal with this.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Hi! I don't think I've ever commented on your blog before but I just wanted to say that I can totally relate to the whole wedding planning drama. I really thought that when I got engaged that the planning was going to be wonderful and blah blah blah. Come to find out it's just one big fight after another over money, ideas, flowers, music, dresses, people not pulling their weight, and again money. It just never ends. We just have to remember that in the end the most important part of the wedding is walking away with a commitment from and to the love of your life (well hopefully the love of your life haha). I know it sounds so cliche because we still want everything to be beautiful. Gah why can't we just have our cake and eat it too?! Good luck with everything!!