I remember when my sixth grade music
teacher announced to us new sixth graders that is was going to be the way of
the world from here on out. Even at the all-knowing age of 13, this concept
dawned anew, yet very wise to me. You
tend to forgot this, when you are waiting for 45 minutes in a paper gown on
crinkled paper atop a pleather table, or on hold with the electric company; but
I think if we kept it in mind during these moments it would help alleviate some
of our blood pressure issues.
My most recent case of “Hurry Up and Wait” pertains to the ShortSale of my house. Things were sailing
along rather smoothly despite the Mortgage Company and their feet dragging ways
or the buyer deciding they needed to be an LLC and the Mortgage Company saying
no. We had moved past that. The Mortgage
Company came with an offer, PAY US MONEY for the next five years and we’ll call
it good. I, in need to be done with this, was ready to jump at the offer as is.
Our Attorney, (and F) decided it
would be best to go back to the Mortgage Company with our pockets out and the
lint dangling from our elbows as we croakedly asked, “Please Sir, can you make
Fine, less out of our pockets is a good thing. I agree. But
time is of the essence here, and all this back and forth takes TIME. Lots and
LOTS of time. Mortgage Companies move
SLOWLY, even when it comes to collecting your money. Just read the news about
how far behind they are on foreclosures, at least a year. So I was settled in for a long wait. Our
Realtor had told us at the onset of the process that the minimum was six
months. We are at month FOUR from the
ORGINIAL offer. On October 19th the Original Buyer decided to be an LLC. We
then moved through changing names and resubmitting the NEW Buyer offer to the
Mortgage Company. New Buyer appeared on October 28th. That puts us at TWO AND A HALF months. As
opposed to SIX. Am I wrong that I
started counting over when we had to change names? That took time. Plus the Original Buyer took a little trip
out of the country and papers weren’t getting signed or notarized, and that was
a cluster. So here we are, two and a
half months later, after THREE major holidays, and the “Buyer” Original or New
I am not sure, is “(g)etting antsy.” So says the Buyer Realtor.
Seriously dude? Now I
know I thought your realtor was kinda flaky, but I at least figured since she
made such a show of how many short sales she was juggling she would have told
you that this takes time. Months of time.
Apparently, I was correct in my judgment of her lack of sense. I gave her too much credit. Silly me. I do have a problem when it comes to
going with my gut instincts. It has been an issue I have struggled with since
childhood. That aside, I truly do hope
the ants get out of your pants, or I may be suing you for mental anguish if you
pull out of this sale. I cannot take much more of this.
That's right my digital friends, F and I drugged and packed up Puppy and headed Back East to spend the Lord Jesus' Birthday with his family.
I have to say that once again this year things were less drama filled than in the past. However, F and I found ourselves smack dab in the middle PLUMBING GATE: 2011. Please read here about the use of vinegar and baking soda. FIL attacked F about our use of T.P. as the cause of PLUMBING GATE: 2011. F HIT THE ROOF. He told FIL not to accuse him and his wife(that would be me) of causing a problem he (FIL) already knew he had and refused help in fixing. Apparently FIL's response was: "Oh, so you're going to be a MAN now are you?"
Oh, the love, it is overwhelming.
After this little male pissing contest we took MIL shopping. F turned on her in the car. She refused to talk about it which enraged F even more. He declared, once again, that we would NOT be staying at their house when next we visit. She declared that in THAT case we need not visit, AT ALL.
And here my digital friends is where FIVE YEARS ( i know, not all that long compared to some, but quite long for me) of keeping my peace came to a very dramatic end.
I LOST MY COOL.
I YELLED. YELLED. Not spoke sternly. Not through gritted teeth and pursed lips. FULL ON YELLED at MIL.
I don't remember verbatim what I said, but the gist was; Stop the drama! Do not Threaten us! Not visiting is VERY MUCH an option as far as I'm concerned, so DO NOT PUSH ME.
F, was stunned. I was stunned. MIL was crying.
MIL's response was that she wasn't threatening us, that we just don't understand what it is like with HIM everyday since we are only there ONCE a YEAR and ONLY for a FEW Days. (ah, still able to get a dig in). It hurts her feelings that we don't want to stay in her house; and how would we feel if she did that? I told her I wouldn't care. Whatever made her most comfortable was fine by me.
I apologized for yelling. And thenI told her she could come visit us, that we want her to come visit us. She wailed that she can't go anywhere!
She was still crying, F was crying. I was shocked and horrified at myself. I was also waiting for F to lose his shit on me for losing mine on his mamma.
I did feel some sense of relief though, I have to say. My friend at work felt that it was unfair that MIL took the verbal beating for FIL, but as I told her, she lets him get away with it and sits silently by as the victim. And who knows? A verbal beat down most likely is still in FIL's future.
Oddly enough, all was well after that. FIL even called a plumber. I wish I had been a fly on that wall for conversation with MIL and FIL about me losing my cool. Why else would he suddenly decide to call a plumber? Maybe I am over crediting myself, but who knows. SOMETHING knocked some sense into him, if only temporally.
There were no ugly clothes received this year. W and T only fought once. The boys LOVED Puppy almost to death. No, really, they were very good with her. FIL groused that he had NO say in Puppy coming with us, to which F said we would happily have stayed at a hotel. Disbelief all around that a hotel would allow a pet. F and I both lost our cool with the boys once over a slapping incident. We both slept like shit despite the new mattress, see link above.
And, I did NOT get sick!! How amazing is that??
So, I signed up to received these news letters from these people. Probably because they said if I did I'd have a chance to win something. They presented themselves as hip e-news for today's women.
But then I got this, and I'm thinking maybe not so much................